若你叫我放底過去，就是叫我放底你。過去有太多的你有太多的我們。我放不下的是我們的點點滴滴。我不甘心的是你是愛我的，我也是愛你，為何這個畫面多了兩個人？難道你沒有看見？我不愛他。你不想她。你說我愛上一個沒有感情的分身。你覺得你還愛她嗎？你的眼睛和勇氣騙不了人。我說你傻！騙子！四個人停留這裡是最痛苦的事情。所以你選擇我們痛苦。每一次我看著你裝無辜的眼神，我恨我自己為什麼會這樣！為什麼命運偏偏作弄人！如果他不愛我，我甘心情願放棄。

我沒有選擇。我唯有做好自己的事情再想。陳年的事往往在我腦海裡不停提醒我原來在這十年裡我沒有望記我要的是什麼。我不可以說我沒有開心過但我沒有真正幸福過。還在期待會有奇蹟出現嗎？

Anticipating 2012, I was ready to say good-bye to 2011 anytime. 2011 was for sure on my worst years list. To many people 2011 was great! But for others like me, 2011 wasn’t a time I would miss.

In 2012, I felt as though, I needed to put many things behind me. Yet every step I take forward, takes me half a step back. What it is about the past that we always tend to fall back on? I’m tired. Exhausted. Sick of repetition. Bored of routine. Yet routine is what comforts everyone.

Happiness is what I’ve been searching for. Where can it be found? Can it be found in wealth? Happiness shouldn’t be far. As a matter of fact, it’s close to you. There are so many people in this world, but we are the only ones who can hold our own happiness. Amongst our busy every lives, how much of us is real and how much of us is fake? Not just in terms of the surface and how we act; but even our thoughts – are they even real?

For most of the time, it’s our thoughts and our perception of things that bother us. What if I tell you that your perception is wrong? Would that issue bother you? I can tell you that if you tell me my perception is wrong, it bothers me even more but that’s just how our brain works. We take in things our way and deal with it our way. But if what bothers us most is our thoughts can we learn to think otherwise? Is there an on and off button to our brain?

You are the only audience to your life. You are judging yourself. At the end of the day, you only need to live up to yourself and no one else. We feel and think what isn’t reality. We take expectations, judgements and demands from others and skew it into a way that puts all these negative thoughts in our heads. These thoughts are essentially what creates pressure and stress. Is it not? We have roles to play, yes. We are a child, a parent, a girl/boyfriend, husband/wife, grandparent, brother/sister, employee/boss; whatever it is we think these roles lock us to be whoever we are. But if I tell you in life you only play two character – you, the main character and other roles (whatever they may be), the supporting character. Is life simpler? In your life, you are the main character. In other’s lives you are the supporting character. You cannot own up to their lives. So why beat up yourself for something that is out of your control? Why? But we all do. We stress over things we don’t have control over. We constantly ask why things happen to us. Whatever role we play, we aim for 100% but no one is perfect. We are perfect to no one. But what we can be, is perfect to ourselves.

I also feel as though, we loss a sense of truth. The true person we once were. I don’t even know which side of life I’m on. I don’t know whether I should live life the way I used to or find a new way. Open minded is the better way to describe a lost person. How did I become so lost? I stopped caring for a lot of things and people. I guess I’m at point of asking why? Why I can’t see beyond today and why the sky suddenly turned grey. What happens if I continue to act oblivious about things? Will I wake up to a world I no longer know or would the world adjust itself? I want to be satisfied. It the temptation is pulling me in different directions. Which direction would you choose?

In the dragon year, I hope to accomplish more than I ever did. I wish to build up the courage for change and new opportunities. If that is the direction of happiness, I will work hard to get there.

All the best in the water dragon year folks!

I had a dream two nights ago about an ex boyfriend. The dream was not memories of dating him but it went back to the time I had a crush on him long before we went out. It’s been a long time but the feeling just came back to me. At my age, having dated so many people I stopped wasting my time crushing on people. This feeling is so old yet so fresh. In the dream I remember my heart pounding and my cheeks blushing up. The funny thing is that I didn’t give this person another chance to reconcile things between us. Now I don’t know whether this is a nightmare or sweet dream. The first thing I did waking up is deleting his contact from all my electronics. Then I came across a picture of him which I could not get myself to delete. It bothered me for the next two days and I started to fall into this confusion phase.

Do I still like him or do I like the person he prior to the relationship? The ending of how we end up never matter to me. It doesn’t matter whether we are still together or not. What matters is that I can’t figure out this weird feeling. Being in a totally different geographic location from I somehow started to feel him alive in my life again. Then I realize I probably miss the feeling of liking someone rather than being liked.

Being pampered and love is a nice feeling but I always chose to like a person more beyond love can define because I think it’s this feeling that makes one soul complete. Sure, you can have a great personality and be liked but how often do you come across someone that makes you incredibly dumb and tipsy. LOL the sadist part is that reality isn’t as beautiful as the feeling.

Every couple can show that they are in love and that everything is perfect with just a few words and actions you don’t see. What we don’t know is the yelling and crying beyond their smiles.

After learning this upon failures of relationships, real love doesn’t matter. It’s the guilt and comfort that people hold on to in the relationship that makes it have to work.

I used to think being together is the best thing god can do for two people but the challenge is torture in another way. The phase before the relationship is always the more fun and sweet phase. Married couples seem happy but if they are not arguing about preferences or kids, they are arguing about money. That wedding to many people is a step to move into the final step of a relationship but final also means closure and death of thee. Every relationship will reach this point but many also enjoy the closure because there is only you and him/her.

All our lives we are chasing for another half to reach the final stage with us but I will chose to never stop chasing for love; even if it’s forbidden.

“生死有命不由命，我命由我不由天” (sang sei yau ming bat yau ming, ngo ming yau ngo bat yau tin)

“births and deaths are part destiny not life, my life is mine not gods” – many people believe that life is all written in the books of the skies; birth and death we cannot control but what do in life is our choices. We make choices that lead us to an expected part of life. It’s not written in the books. We meet opportunities and challenges that leads to paths of different fates. In the end, we come to the same point of death. Life expectancy is not up to us to choose but we before we get there, life is in our hands. Don’t feel hopeless over what we can’t control but instead focus on what we can control. Recently, a friend’s grandpa got really sick and passed. All an believe is that he’s in a better place. Hope this friend can find her inner strength to face the loss of those who raised her. Instead of the “everything will be ok” comforting words, I’m sending her and her family my greatest sympathies. Those we loss will be missed but know that their love will be with us each and every day of our lives.

“為人子女要孝順，不孝之人罪孽深” – (wai yan ji nui yui hao seun, bat hao zi yan jui yip sam)

“as children we must respect our parents, those who don’t carry sins” this phrase takes on the meaning to everyone’s roots. In Taoism, it’s all about respecting the ancestors and the elderly in order for good karma. What goes around comes around, how you treat your parents is how your children are going treat you. Parents could be a little annoying at times but they always do things in your best interest. It is believed in superstition of Taoism and Buddhism that child who don’t respect their parents or treat them bad, don’t make it far in life and will not be successful. In the statistics of the people I know this philosophy it is true so far but it’s up to decide whether you believe in it. However aside from the superstition, your parents are the reason why you are here, they deserve your all.

- a cake I made for my dad’s 60th bday

The short moment of sunrise that I always love. It symbolizes hope. My auntie is in Japan, somewhere in which we don’t know. All we know is that she needs us. The earthquake and tsunami is just the beginning of more disasters to come. I hope everyone there are going to be okay. Friends and rangers are out on the search and haven’t heard from then since. This goes to show even how rich you are, a life is equal in the hands of nature. Success in life is not about how high up you are or the endless digits in your bank account. It’s the number of people who are willing to risk their lives to find you in catastrophe periods. May god be with us all once again.

Keeping a beautiful image in our minds with us every day of our lives is a source of hope. What’s yours?

There is a place every one of us are very familiar with; just that it’s unique to each of us. A place called memory. Somewhere in memory is where most of leave more 50 percent of us behind and use the remained of ourselves to live the days of our lives. How much have we fallen behind in the present before it becomes history?

Somewhere in memory is where we find our youth, stability, stressless lives and love. We live each day with memory guiding us through familiar streets and paths we once came across. Memory is where we look for answers of what we like to eat, what we like to do to pass time and where we like to go. Without this guidance we become lost souls like newborns. What we will realize is that memory always stores the best things. Food even taste better in memory than the present. Love is even deeper in memory but how much of memory is real? Does anybody know the answer?

For me, memory keeps me content and happy living without regrets because in my memory I know how much I’ve loved and contributed. Every piece of memory only happens once. Things can’t be held forever but memories are yours to keep. In many cases memories are shared between you and special people. That’s the only thing real about it – the fact that a bond was created in memory. Memory in the present is history and unreal in this point in time. The only truth lies in the sea of memory when it connects to another like a puzzle. How far does you favorite memories go? And what truth does it hold?

Those who know me think that I’m a great cook and a natural domestic lady but they also know it take winning the lottery to be able to have me in the kitchen. I say I probably cook once a year. So this valentine, I tried something new – making a cake. I can’t bake. I’m the type of person who burns pillsbury cookies haha. The end result was this cake in the picture which looks good but the taste is so-so. It’s pretty fun, you guys should try it.

????????? – loving the same person more than once is what this quote means. Recently I’ve watched “ex”, the movie starring Gillian, William and Michelle. That movie did not impress me but it was enjoyable in the sense that it made me think of past times and past people.

Loving a person is already not easy – it’s a generous character to give and show love; not to mention allowing the same person to come in and out your life more than once. Many would ask why is that? You break up for a reason – you either hurt the person, the person hurt you or you both hurt each other and that is what sucks about – hurting each other. In most cases, people get back together because they have unfinished business. The break up probably happened upon harsh words or force. Truth is that when you still love each other and it’s not one sided, the magnetic force is still there. The moment of truth happens when you bump into each other again and talk about the past. You can just see it in their eyes. Does this sound like you?

Every time you start again with the same person, what we don’t realize is not that they are more attractive or irreplaceable, the memory of the past is too beautiful to let go. However you both have changed during the time apart and once again you will be disappointed in the ending you both failed to achieve the first time and it’s happening again. You yell at each other saying things like “you’re always like that, when are you gonna change”. Truth is if it didn’t work out the first time, it will not the many times around.

Separation makes us understand or realize what we had before could only be lived once. Being together makes us see the growth in each other during the time apart and it’s really up to both parties to make the effort to work it out. The end of one is the beginning of another. When it’s the same person, it’s called continuation. There’s no such ideal thing as getting to know each other again. The start is always the best but when it becomes comfortable, you go back to your old habits because that’s how we are in nature. Changing for others never last. Being true to yourself will put you in a better and more content relationship.

So have you ever given the same person more than one chance and realize that everytime around, the situation just repeats itself? Try something new.

“????? ?????” (yan wor ji daak lok, ga wor maan si hing) “ji daak” means to be content or satisfied with one’s position. “hing” means to be excited or happy. The following quote translates as…

“Peace brings one self happiness, peace brings families exciting things” – peace of mind brings clarity to every picture.

Destiny. How many of us believe in it? How many of us are thrown in the wheel of destiny? Is it all part of what is meant to be or somewhat twisted? Destiny is all part of the game of life as
what we cannot define – why some of us are better off than others and the large gap of equality. Some of us are born with what we see as normal facial features, brain, body and limbs. However, none of us see it as a fortunate aspect, until we hear of the unfortunate stories of others. All our lives we strive for balance yet the first thing we are born to see is a world that has no balance, no equality, no stability and no way out. You see, what most people don’t realize is that destiny is really a chain of reactions. Something happens, we choose which way to go and it leads to a
higher probable outcome. For example, you work hard to make money, so you chose to save your money, and then your kids will have a higher chance of being well off after you die. Are they destined to be wealthy? I don’t believe that this chain just exists in your lifetime; it happened before your lifetime and it happens after. All these paths and chain gets intertwine with other paths which cause more probabilities. To not over complex things we reference all this to a word called destiny. Are you destined to meet that specific someone? Are you destined to get that certain job? Are you destined to be who you are? It’s like a seed that you plant and it grows. The seed has its history and the branches and leaves will have its stories after leaving the tree. If you believe that destiny is a chain reaction, everything you do affect other destinies and maybe why you do what you do is because of destiny. You are meant to get the job because your boss was destined to create the job. The person left the job because they were destined to join another company.

Many choose to believe that everything is predicted and foreseen by the ancient world. Have they planned our destinies or did we a contribute in building destiny. Nevertheless, history and past civilization shape the world we live in right now. Advancement and evolution are the only changes in lifestyle yet history and human behavior never changed. Are we people of the past or are we people
with destiny of the past?

Not to say, I’m not a believer of destiny or the supernatural but I chose be a believer of fate, as an alternative. I don’t believe life ahead is a set path. You will run into paths set by past people, which alters your direction of destiny. Yes , your still stuck, sucks doesn’t it? Perhaps options and opportunities were laid out by the map of destiny – where we were born, to what social class, and to which area of governance. Those are all factors that affect our choices, options and opportunities. A person who was born to a wealthy family has more opportunities to stay in that social group with less family responsibilities, better education and access to a wider library than the average public. So yes, I’m a believer of history and the imbalance destiny but these chances could be altered if you chose otherwise. Still in the game of life yet a straight path is not what they offered. Being born better off doesn’t mean it is meant
to be. Divorced parents can alter that outcome which is a choice, you as a child don’t have control over.

Every step you make marks history. Every choice you make maps someone’s path. Every plan you make could be someone’s destiny. You make a difference. Make a century lasting choice.

I have a few friends who’s birthdays are this week and I
started off saying the same thing to them as I have told many significant people in my life. As our birthdays approach, we tend to find ourselves leaving a moment from our daily lives to reflect on the past – the past times, past birthdays and past people. There’s happy and there’s unhappy. There’s times we never want to mention again and there’s the time we miss so much; wishing we were at that time again. When we think of those times, we don’t realize how much had passed and how old we became because when we to think of this moment, this moment has already passed. We also come to think about what we have accomplished and what we still need to reach for. On the way, of course there were the unexpected gain and unexpected loss. If you believe that everything happens for a reason, you’ll know it’s just a part of growing up.

Many of us are always told to let go of the past but how many of us really realize the true meaning behind these easy words? Is letting of the past pressing the delete button in our memory and throwing everything in the trash can? No we cannot do that because we are not computers. Our brains are really not programmable. Letting go is really taking a step forward and leaving things in your rearview – meaning you can still reach back to it. Some things has it’s storing value. It made you the person you. The world can tell you are being stupid by still thinking of the person from 10 years ago but guess what, it’s your memory and no one can take that away.

For the past several years, many things have changed but my “constant” remains my two close friends – Nancy and Grace and of course my family. Finding constants to some people is easy but to those whose lives are frequently changing, it’s very difficult. Boyfriends in my dictionary are never good constants. Just because you never know what they are thinking. One day they can love you and the next day they can hate you.

This year I wish everyone finds their “constants” and stability in life. Because on the balance keeps us on our foots moving forward.

Happy birthday to my girls. January babies!

Time to all of us is a very sensitive element that we use and keep track of. Sometimes without knowing. We time ourselves, events and others. Why is that we become so lost with these digits? Have you ever forgotten your cell phone or watch and became so
frustrated that your whole schedule is thrown out of portion. This is because there are these expiration dates when things are due, need to be done and places to be at. Is time that crucial that we use it to keep order in life? For myself like many others, I’m a time sensitive person – I can’t be late, I have to make use of every moment I get, and I plan ahead for every possible thing in my schedule. However, I don’t necessarily write it down; it’s just all
in the mind. Because each and every one of us has their own tight schedule in their minds; we get frustrated when others waste our time. Why? it’s not because we are more important than others. It’s because we become lost and the most important thing is that time is never enough. We need to work, go to school, do assignments, study, watch tv, meet friends, eat, get the car fixed and so on. There’s
so much to do yet little time. Those who know me think I live a celebrity life; I can fly out every other weekend and still keep up with my Monday to Friday 8 to 5 schedule. The reason why people live such tight schedule lives is because they want to feel that they are not wasting time. Time is money, many business people would say. The reason is because if you can just sit there and do nothing; for the time being, you could be making money. Of course
not many of us operate on such sensitive and strict time schedule.
Those who do certainly are not easily people to get along with. And if you are, don’t forget to take some time to reflect on life. Life also deserves its time to bloom. Everything in life has its
expiration date – a life, a battery, a car, and even a relationship. Don’t need to be so stubborn on leaving things
behind. Having gone through a significant amount in life; what I
came to realize is that we tend to hold on to certain things so strongly and there’s some things that we won’t let go until we die. No matter if it’s a person, significant gift or collectibles; we just tend to keep a lot of garbage. People in memory can stay but don’t be too keen on the possessions. If things are meant to be broken, to go bad, or lost; chances are their expiration date had come. Life does not care whether you paid 5 dollars or 500 dollars for it. And if it isn’t yours to keep, it’s not meant to be yours.
If a relationship doesn’t last; chances are that’s not your other half – even if he/she is the love of your life. People come and go. Your best friend from high school may not be your best friend in University or into the workforce. I realized that people I can
think of who have been so close to me at different points of my life are no longer involved in my life; even friends we once said “I have to be your child’s godmother.” Guess what? She got married and had a kid but she didn’t invite you. Funny isn’t it? And it
almost didn’t matter because that’s just life, your supporting role in their life ended episodes ago and the show goes on. Coming across an expiration date can be scary sometimes – especially if that means a relationship, long term friendship, or partnership. We just need to look at these ends bringing better beginnings. There
is a Chinese saying “????????” which means there’s no event that
doesn’t end in the world. The greatest time will pass and the worst times will pass. It’s up to determine the duration by smiling through it. Enjoy every ride life puts you and you’ll sure face
these expiration dates with another attitude. One day, perhaps many
of you would like to share yours with me.

“???????????????” (fung hei wun yong nian yau nian, dak dak sut sut yiu lok tin) – “fung hei wun yong” means turbulence.

“Streams of turbulence comes years after years with each flight in life, gain or loss stay positive” – I chose this quote today because it’s the start of a new year and it’s the first day everyone is going back to work and school. This quote reminds us that as we step into a new year, we all hope it’s better than the last; it’s up to is to make it happen. 2010 for some of us like myself was my best and worse but every loss comes with a gain. Sometimes these don’t balance and it’s alright. We take a deep breath and move on.

I hope everyone had time to do some end of the year reflections in 2010; what didn’t get done carry it on to the next year, it’s always okay. Work at your pace not the society’s. Social norms don’t work for everyone. Take it easy. This moment can only be lived once, love is stronger than hate. Put all of 2010 in your rear view but to be stored as memories for reference. We look ahead.

Happy 2011 everyone. All the best to u and ur loved ones!

Flying out tonight. Just wanna wish everyone a Merry Jolly Christmas! Best wishes to you and your family. Safe holidays guys!

“???????????????” (yan sang jau jeung yat cheung hei, yan wai yau yuen choi seung yu) – “yat cheung hei” as we know means a movie/act/drama. “yau yuen” means fated.

“life is like a drama, we all meet through fate” – I wrote an an article years ago about life vs love vs drama but in short this quote says it all. I will repost that magazine article when I get a chance. I chose this quote today because as we are approaching the end of the year, one thing everyone does is reflect on what we’ve done, accomplished and who we’ve met. The key here is people. Do you ever meet someone for an hour and find yourself clicking with them more so than friends you’ve met since high school? Each one of us act and feel different in different stages of our lives. Because of previous stages in our rear view mirror that makes us who we are standing in the present. People come and go. However when they enter, there’s a reason. Life is a drama play, you meet your long term friend-enemies in act one. Love in Act Two and yourself in Act Three…. So on. Then you meet those who you don’t know for a long time and you end up bonding with them instantly because of what you guys been through in different worlds. In the act you are the main character and everyone you meet are here to support your role. There’s a reason to every purpose and there are meanings to everyone in your life; no matter if you want to remember them or not. I guess the lesson here is to know that people are in our lives for the same reason you are in theirs. The plot like your life is beautiful look for the cues, play your part and destiny will cue fate into the story.

“???????????????” (tui yat Bo tin gou dei fwoot, yeung sam fun sum ping hei wor) – “tui yat bo” means take a step back. “tin gou dei fwoot” literraly translate the sky is high and land is wide. “sum ping hei wor” means calm and peace. My translation is as follows

“you will realize that the world is a lot bigger if you take a step back, letting go will put you at peace rather than anger” – I chose this quote today because most of us don’t realize that the world is endless. What we see is only what we assume and what we know. Sometimes getting stuck in a situation which you may think is right gives us a stubborn boost but what we should realize that if we take a step back, everything is about perspective. Societal norm is not always right. It’s just ignorance. Yesterday I came across a situation where a friend of mine was stuck in traffic for 3 hours – he was outraged and wanted to quit his job due to the distance. I can’t say the situation is ideal but if you calm down and think about what unexpected situations do to our minds you’ll find it could be quite interesting. Last week in the papers two people were arguing outside the club; and one of the guys ran the other over after the fight and drove off. If those guys would have just walked off and backed out from the conflict – one wouldn’t be dead; the other wouldn’t be on the national wanted list. In many situation you come across step back and think if it’s worth being stubborn over; if not take a step back and walk away. It’s actually a brave thing to do. Societal norm says it’s cowardness but being able to walk away when needed requires courage which most people don’t have. Key learning for today – calm. Good day everyone!

“???????????????” (cho cha daam faan chui yuen gor, fu gwai wing wah monk keung kau) – “cho cha daam faan” literally translate low graded meals; which in Chinese is often referred to as the simple life. “wing wah fu gwai” means life of the upper class or literally means luxury.

“if an ordinary life is meant to be yours, don’t overly hope for the extraordinary luxury life” – I have a friend who once told me “ordinary people want to live the extraordinary life and you born in an extraordinary life just want to be ordinary like everyone else – how ironic” my take on it is that people want things they don’t have but things that are not meant to be yours often brings along its high price. If you’re willing to risk that and eventually get want you want, I congratulate you but often people return in wounds of loss. If it’s meant to be yours, it will be. Let it flow. If it’s not meant to be yours, it will slip out of your hand before you know it. I chose this quote today because this can be referred to a lot in life – relationships, social class, luxury and friends. Keep your options open, you can’t run too far from your potential. Strive high but build a strong foundation around you. When you fall you can’t fall too deep, your foundation will keep you standing. Have you found your stability (foundation) in life yet?

“???????????????” (ging si seung yi tung lam liu, fung yu tung lo gin jaan sum) – “tung lam liu” means birds of the same forest. This metaphor is usually used to describe couples in relationship but you can also use it for family members or those with you on the same boat. “seung yi means dependent. In previous posts I mentioned that fung yu is storm.

“like birds in the same forest, you can see their true character through the storms” – when things are well you won’t notice people’s true character or heart. It takes time to truly judge someone and most of the time you can tell through bad times. You could be dating someone for years and may not even truly know them until you’re at the edge of a cliff. Will they jump with you, hold you back or let you go? Don’t jump into conclusions about anything, especially young ones who are currently dating – don’t think you know your other half, know them!

“????? ?????” (si fei jung yat yay, but ting ji yin mou) “si fei” means gossip, rumors and bullshit propaganda. “Yau” means flies or travel.

“gossip exist and travels in our everyday life, if you ignore it than it’s not there.” – I chose this simple quote because though it’s simple none of us can get pass the words that goes around with bad intentions. People don’t care about happy things. They enjoy talking bad about people and exaggerate it 10 times worse than it really is. We only have control over ourselves so why not just stay away from the BS. Maybe that’s why I chose not stay in Hong Kong. The more close-minded people the more rumors. Whatever other people say: as long it’s not from people we care about should not hurt because criticisms only improves us and meaningless words don’t matter. Stay away from gossip or laugh it off, it’s easier!

ARIES – The Liar

Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Not one to mess with. Funny. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY adorable. Loves relationships, Addictive. Loud.

TAURUS – The Tramp

Aggressive. Loves being in long relationships. Likes to give a good fight for what they want. Extremely outgoing. Loves to help people in times of need. Good kisser. Good personality. Stubborn. A caring person. One of a kind. Not one to mess with. Are the most attractive people on earth!

GEMINI – Irresistible

Nice. Love is one of a kind. Great listeners Very Good in the you know where… Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you out. Trustworthy. Always happy. Loud. Talkative. Outgoing
VERY FORGIVING. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous.
Strong. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE.

CANCER – The Cutie

MOST AMAZING KISSER. Very high appeal. Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to.

LEO – The Lion

Great talker. Attractive and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at almost anything. Great kisser. Unpredictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud.
Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare
to find. Good when found.

VIRGO – The One that Waits

Dominant in relationships. Someone loves them right now. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Loud. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. The one and only.

LIBRA – The Lame One

Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring person you will ever meet! However, not the kind of person you want to mess with… you might end up crying…

SCORPIO – The Addict

EXTREMELY adorable. Intelligent. Loves to joke. Very Good sense of humor. Energetic. Predict future. GREAT kisser. Always get what they want. Attractive. Easy going. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Caring.

SAGITTARIUS – The Promiscuous One

Spontaneous. High appeal. Rare to find. Great when found. Loves
being in long relationships. So much love to give. Not one to mess with.
Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is
one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique appeal. Most caring
person you will ever meet! Amazing in the you know where..!!! Not the
kind of person you want to mess with- you might end up crying.

CAPRICORN – The Passionate Lover

Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Predict future. Irresistible. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always gets what he or she wants. Cool. Loves to own Gemini’s
in sports. Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Smart.

AQUARIUS – Does It In The Water

Trustworthy. Attractive. Great kisser. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Extremely energetic.
Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out.

PISCES – The Partner for Life

Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. High appeal. Has
the last word. Good to find, hard to keep. Fun to be around. Extremely
wei rd but in a good way. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. Always lets
what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet.

“??????? ???????” (man mut yau ching sum yau oi, hor geui ta yan siu ngo chi) – “man mut” literally translate as millions things or everything but it means all living things. “geui” is fear. This phrase is a little bit tricky to grasp. I interpret it as follows:

“all living things on earth had feelings as love exist in our hearts, why be care if others think I’m crazy” – I chose this quote today for those who have love in their hearts and are afraid to express it. Love is something to be grateful of – not everyone is lucky to feel it; no matter if it’s both ways or one way. Open your heart to embrace love when it comes; especially when you’re young – it’s the time to have fun, make mistakes and learn. Failure is not something to fear – it let’s you know yourself better in terms of what you like and dislike. For those who are dwelling on old love that you have long lost, it’s okay to care about them and still love them. That just means it was real because real love doesn’t die – it’s somewhere deep inside your heart. Don’t be ashame if others view you as weak, beautiful things deserve to stay in your hearts and that’s all you should remember anyway. It takes a lot of courage to look pass others’ opinions but at the end of the day, you are the one living through it and you gotta be able to live with what you do/did. Don’t be afraid. Open up your hearts.

“??????? ???????” (yan sang boon si yat cheung mung, wei liu siu si monk sang hei” – this quote today is very simple; it is what it is.

“life is like a dream, don’t get stuck/upset over the smallest things” – time passes by very quickly. It’s over before you know it. The quote encourages us to be calm and light hearted. Many of us are very stubborn and aggressive; especially when we were younger. However, if you look back at the things we used to upset over, it’s probably the stupidest things. Don’t carry extra weight, let it go. If something pisses you off: step away, get fresh air and breathe. Clear your mind and your perspective will become wider. Don’t get mad at your fir not meeting expectations; think about if you are already best, what else is there to strive for? As long as you’ve tried, it’s already enough. Life doesn’t strive to be perfect; it strives for balance and full.

Good day!

“???????????????” (gum sheung tim fa yan yan yau, suet jung sung taan sai naan chum” – “gum sheung tim fa” literally translate adding flowers to a piece of fabric or art. “suet jung sung taan” means gift of coal in the cold.

“many can be there through happy times, but it’s hard to find those who are there through the bad” – this quote reminds us of times through our ups and downs and those people in those times. The ratio are never even. Think about those times when you were complaining about your boyfriend and all those friends who just said leave him but what they never realized is that they have take responsibility of their words. When you actually break up with your boyfriend you will find that coincidentally everyone is busy or with their boyfriends. At the end of the day you are left facing it alone. Make every decision as your own because the most reliable person you can depend on is yourself. There are the people who will provide the warm in the cold, those are the people you should appreciate and be there for. But if one day you realize that you are alone don’t be scared because god’s with you.

Each and every day, we’re all constantly working towards completion, whether it’s a deadline or a task; it doesn’t change. We’re given deadlines and we give ourselves a time limit. Then wish that when this period is over we can just sit there and do nothing. What we don’t realize is that even when we’re sitting there waiting, we’re timing ourselves because things that need to be done are endless. Clocks are everywhere and without it, we become lost people. You’ve probably came across a stranger stopping you on the street asking “do you have the time?” and you were probably once that stranger yourself. But no one ever said “screw it! Who cares what time it is?” City people with their busy lives can’t even afford to spare one minute to think of someone else besides from what they have on their shoulders. 

Do you ever feel like there’s so much on your mind that you just want time to stop so that you can gather yourself before moving ahead again? Reality is that when you do so, time won’t sit there and wait for you, the world will continue to spin no matter what happens the next minute. You will miss out on things and you will gain other things. 

Humans are strange creatures who love to manipulate and take control of life, time is no exception. What they don’t realize is that they can’t challenge time. Time’s always ahead of you. It comes and goes at an untrackable rate. At the very second of a blink of an eye, time can turn the world upside down. When you come to think about this moment, it’s already history. And as you’re reading this, minutes had gone by just like that. Look at the right bottom corner of your screen, where did all the time go?

Timing has always been a biggest part of life and we with our ongoing lives fail to stop and see what’s around us. We all work hard towards things we want for ourselves and we set our goals so high that it’s too far from reach. Why? Is it because life will stop without it? While dreams are far and cannot happen overnight, we don’t realize that as time pass; the people around us are also aging. When was the last time you stopped to realize how much your parents aged? Or the white hair they have compared to two years ago? When was the last time you sat down your gf/bf/husband/wife/kids and seriously asked “how’s everything?” Have you ever stopped and ask yourself what am I going to do if this person dies or walks out on me today? We’re only human. We live and we die. Lives are fragile. Time will pass and yesterday cannot be relived again, cherish the people beside you. Besides from the thousands of tangible and materialistic things in the world you’re striving for, there are natural gifts from god and those are the people in your life. Busy? How busy can you be if you have time to read this? A minute makes a difference. Don’t take time for granted. Dreams are far and life is short, take it one step at a time. Last year at this time, I once told someone that life is all about taking it one step at a time. Completing the step in front of you to ensure a better tomorrow is already enough. At the time, I needed to ensure that at that moment I still have what I almost loss. This time today, what do you have ahead of you?

“??????? ???????” (biet yan sang hei ngo but hei, hei chuet bang yoi mo yan lei) – “sang hei” means anger, upset and grudge.

“I won’t be angry along others, anger causes illness when no one cares” – this quote reminds us that impulsive/long term anger does no good but harms our soul. Cowardness is not encouraged but calmness is. Sometimes when we are anger it affects everything we do – how we act, our sleep, appetite, judgement and our attitude towards others/life. We can also make the wrong decisions during this time. If possible take things easy because nothing lasts forever. You’ll be over quicker when you smile through it. Like storing empty calories is not good for your body, so is anger in your heart. Let it go.

Good day!

“???????????????” (fu mo yan ching chi hoi sum, yan sang monk mong fu mo yan” – Fu mo means parents and yan ching is grace, affection or favor.

“parent’s love is as deep as the sea, do not take it for granted in life” – this phrase is saying do not forget your roots and how you got to where you are now. Parents are your roots. Do not overlook the little things they have done for you. Parents are like our safety zone, when we have any problems we tend to run back to them for help and they never shut theirs doors on us. When times are good we tend to get caught up in our lives and forget about them. We fail to see the love behind the warm breakfast on the table, the clean laundry all folded after your weekend outings and simply the care when they ask they stupidest question like “you’re home?” when you are standing at the doorstep.

I chose this quote today because I think a lot you like me are so caught up with life; when I stop to realize as I age so are my parents. And i’m sure they have problems and they just don’t speak up about it. Appreciate them. Don’t realize too late.

God bless!

????-???: ??????? ???? ??? – Cantonese pinyin: “Shui yin san cheui fung lui yu, gin seun chue yeung bit joi yu” – It literally translate that even though you in the wind, lightning and rain, still believe that “chue yeung” will appear again. Chue Yeung is a city gate to the capital in the Tang dynasty or it can mean sunrise – the morning sun.

“Although you are currently situated in the storm, believe that the sun will shine” – this phrase from the advisory literature written in the Tang, which you may have heard in the TVB series “can’t buy me love”; encourages hope in down times.

Life consists of lots of ups and downs but how bad or happy the times are, they don’t stay forever. One of biggest down times lasted for probably 2 or 3 years but that doesn’t mean giving up was an option. When you are in a low period in your life, look for the slight smile in you, relax and believe that around every dead end there’s always hope around the corner. Cheers!

Yay welcome to my new blog. Just starting to settle down and work from all my travels so I haven’t had time to even to go on my computer. Lucky I downloaded this iPhone app. However blogging about my day isn’t the purpose of the site. I wanna share interesting and wise words with you guys which is all saved on my computer. So I will do that next blog. So how is everyone? How are my fic readers? All grown up and off to uni and college? Haha some of you like me are probably done and working. Anyway, I wrote half of premarital endurance and will post it this coming week so if u you haven’t subscribed please do. PE is a good stress relief comedy before I start the rest. “Strategic Affairs 2 – my boyfriend is a celebrity” will be after that while at the same I am working on “the fortune teller” which is a supernatural science fiction in the format of forensic evidence. SA2 will not be linked to the first one. It will be a EG fic like tf. Anyway I will keep u guys posted.